LIVING UNMARRIED CHASTITY: THE HARD PURE WAY
Chastity from Latin castus meaning clean, pure, mild
I did not know before that chastity also pertains to the purity of thinking against impure thoughts aside from sexual ones or thoughts that will effect sexual excitement. What I knew before was chastity is purity of mind and body against sexual excitements which are sinful. Now, thank God, I know that chastity also is purity of thinking against negative or bad thoughts and purity of speech.
But because I am in my way of living a life of unmarried chastity, I think unmarried chastity must be understood first.
Unmarried chastity is a calling from God not to dream nor desire married life in order for a person to become in full service for God alone, living in love of God and of neighbor, especially serving and loving all people for the service and love a person gives for God. Unmarried chastity is a challenge of God to anyone who will devote themselves fully for the sake of the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 19:11-12) and a “special” grace directly came from God in order for a person to see all people with love and mercy which is the love and mercy God has towards all people, making this person a shepherd for all the sheep, whom God loves (Matthew 9:35-38). Practically speaking, unmarried chastity is as if a person is an angel, and because he is like an angel, he must forever live as if he has no sexual organs and has no material body. Unmarried chastity is living an angel-like life. We who lives this life do not burden ourselves with the problems of the world but we are the solution – givers, flying like an angel to attend to all people especially in their needs that must be attended by us – and that is our burden – to become like angels in love and in life serving people whom God loves.
That is really hard. See this. A husband loves his wife and vice versa. While we who lives an unmarried chastity life will become “husband” to all people which we will treat as our “wife!” And we are not sure if our “wife” will love us back! But we do not worry for God’s love will be our “wife” and, God’s love will turn these people to love us “husband” as God wills, and as we pray. It is also hard for our sexual organs are just for urinating and poop-ing. And an exception for women, no baby can gain even a drop of milk out of women’s breasts (because they are virgins). See? To live a life of unmarried chastity is really hard. But this pureness of life that we live is worth it.
As for me, unmarried chastity is really hard but liveable. I do not have “crushes”. The battle is in the imagination. I cannot imagine myself having sweet contacts with women in my mind for it will damage my unmarried purity. I cannot imagine being in company of women either. If these imaginations enter my mind, I eliminate them out and I fight by imagining heavenly matters. Now I believe unmarried chastity will always be attainable.
The love of God is what gives us the balance to live as we will not have husband or wife to love. The love of God is our husband or wife.
And for those who have a husband or a wife now, live a married chaste life.
For those who live an impure life, there is always a life of purity for you to live.
Live a chaste life my friends!
Mary H. Distributist